A recent survey has revealed that unmarried South Koreans who have experienced divorce exhibit divergent preferences in terms of the messages they would have liked to receive from their former spouses during their marriage. (Image courtesy of Korea Bizwire)
SEOUL, Nov. 22 (Korea Bizwire) – A recent survey has revealed that unmarried South Koreans who have experienced divorce exhibit divergent preferences in terms of the messages they would have liked to receive from their former spouses during their marriage. Notably, men who were previously married express a strong desire to hear encouraging words like “you’re the best,” while women value hearing expressions of approval such as “good job” from their partners.
The survey, conducted by matchmaking companies Only You and Bien-Aller, took place from November 13 to 18. A total of 514 participants, 257 men and 257 women nationwide with a desire to remarry contributed to the findings.
According to the results released on Tuesday, when asked about the phrase they most desired to hear from their ex-spouse during their marriage, 31.1 percent of men selected “You are the best (encouragement),” and 30.3 percent of women opted for “Great job (praise).” In the second and third positions, men favored “Great job” (25.3 percent) and “Have fun and take care” (18.7 percent), while women leaned towards “You’re the best” (26.1 percent) and “I love you” (21 percent). “Honey” secured the fourth position for both men (16 percent) and women (15 percent).
Differences between men and women were also observed regarding the circumstances leading to divorce. Men predominantly cited “being rejected and marginalized (by family)” as the primary reason (33.1 percent), followed by “feeling invisible” (29.2 percent), “feeling like a burden” (28.4 percent), and “being bossed around” (9.3 percent). For women, the leading factor was “being bossed around” (35 percent), followed by “feeling like a burden” (29.5 percent), “being bullied” (23.4 percent), and “feeling invisible” (12.1 percent).
Concerning ways in which ex-spouses fell short during their marriages, men pointed to “neglecting basic responsibilities” (36.2 percent), “being selfish” (32.7 percent), and “misbehaving as a spouse” (19.8 percent). Women, on the other hand, prioritized “misbehaving as a spouse” (34.2 percent), “neglecting basic responsibilities” (28.5 percent), and “being selfish” (24.1%). “Stingy with affection” ranked fourth for both men (11.3 percent) and women (13.2 percent).
J. S. Shin (js_shin@koreabizwire.com)
