SEOUL, Sept. 19 (Korea Bizwire) – After a first love doesn’t work out, men and women often respond differently. Many men experience significant emotional setbacks, like dropping out of school or enlisting in the military.
In contrast, women typically recover from these setbacks more quickly than men. You might have heard the saying that men tend to be more attached to their first love, while women are more attached to their last.
But how do men and women handle being divorced or single after a breakup? In surveys, men are often described as “depressed,” while women are seen as “cheerful.”
A survey conducted by Only-You, a remarriage information company, in collaboration with Bien Aller, a marriage information company, from September 11 to 16, gathered responses from 538 divorced singles (269 men and 269 women) across the country.
The survey results, released on September 18, asked participants how their acquaintances typically perceived them around the time of their divorce from their former spouse.
For men, the most common response was “depressed” (29 percent), followed by “lonely” (24.2 percent) and “dazed” (20.8 percent). Women, on the other hand, were more likely to say they felt “dazed” (25.3 percent), “haggard” (21.2 percent), and “depressed” (17.1 percent).
So, what led to the decision to divorce? About 33.1 percent of men answered “on a whim,” while 35.3 percent of women said it was “after much thought.” The second most common reason for both genders was that “things got out of hand” (28.3 percent for men and 24.2 percent for women).
Beyond that, men chose “after much thought” (23.1 percent) and “out of anger” (15.5 percent), while women chose “out of anger” (21.2 percent) and “on a whim” (19.3 percent).
Interestingly, the study also found that staying in an unhappy marriage might be better for your physical health than getting divorced or living alone.
This is because married couples often influence each other to adopt healthier lifestyles, and they tend to have higher incomes, making it easier to afford a healthy lifestyle.
An international team of researchers, including those from Carleton University in Canada, discovered that married people had 21 percent lower blood sugar levels than individuals who were living alone due to reasons like bereavement, divorce, or remaining single.
The researchers analyzed data from the English Longitudinal Study of Ageing (ELSA), which included 3,335 adults aged 50 to 89 without a diabetes diagnosis between 2004 and 2013.
Participants were initially interviewed and categorized based on whether they had a partner (spouse or domestic partner) and the quality of their relationship. The analysis revealed that simply having a partner, even in a strained relationship, was associated with lower HbA1c levels over time.
In contrast, those who had experienced divorce or separation saw significant increases in their HbA1c levels.
Surprisingly, the quality of the relationship with a spouse or domestic partner did not significantly affect blood sugar levels. The researchers concluded that the presence of a spouse, even in a difficult relationship, can help prevent high blood sugar levels.
M. H. Lee (mhlee@koreabizwire.com)
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