SEOUL, May 23 (Korea Bizwire) – The Samsung Life Retirement Research Center reported on May 20 that according to a study of 820 married individuals across the country, both male and female and above 20 years of age, husbands and wives are hurt most by their spouses’ words that demean their self-esteem.
Of the 441 participating husbands, 24.9 percent reported that they are hurt the most when their wives say words that look down on their character or abilities such as “Of course you would do that,” “What is it that you even do?” “You are not a man,” “No need for you to know,” and more.
As to the comments that are the most hurtful, 16.4 percent of the male participants replied that it is when their wives insult their parents or their original households, while 15.6 percent replied that it is when they are demeaned in front of others. Lastly, 15.0 percent replied that it is when they are being compared to others.
The female participants in the study, 363 individuals in total, similarly picked demeaning words from their husbands as the most hurtful. Expressions reported as most hurtful include, “Stay quiet if you don’t know”, “Is that really all there is to you?”, “Forget it,” and more.
The wives also reported that they are most hurt when their husbands demean them in front of others (15.5 percent), insult their parents or household (10.7 percent), or blame them for raising their children improperly (10.4 percent).
By Esther J. Kim (esther.jiyoung@koreabizwire.com)